By; Ana Mepham
I have found lately when having a conversation with someone struggling with something emotional it goes a bit like this, ill ask them how they are doing? They know immediately its a sincere question and I am being genuine, also that its a safe space and opening up is good. They will start to say they are grand, a little stressed. Then they discuss what ever situation is weighing on them. It could be something like the car is playing up and costing a lot of money to fix. Or it could be something like for example my family member, loved one, etc is sick and it could be terminal. These are two very different things but still stressful problems that are effecting said person. No mater how small or big. The next thing that happens is they go on to say “but sure look, there are plenty others out there that have it worse, it'll be grand.” There is definitely an element of which comparing is healthy and good but there is also an element of which comparing can be unhealthy and cause imbalance.
Don't get me wrong I can see how this can work as a coping mechanism to avoid getting upset, being seen as weak or perhaps just to full on avoid the emotions. As we all know everything in life can be avoided up to a point but then it really is important to not compare and just “say it, how it is!”.
Saying it how it is shows courage and expressing emotions shows strengths. Its all a proses in which we should allow to flow instead of justifying our emotions by comparing and actually not dealing with these feelings.
Just say it! Say it how it is and let it be. No shame, no second guessing, don’t doubt yourself. The voice in your head can only stay in there for so long. You need to release this emotion and not feel like once you have said it you should compare it. This is your situation, no one else s. Yes we can all relate to emotions but you are currently in this and you are allowed to feel the way you are.
By: Joyce O Sullivan
In Ireland, 8 Adults out of 10 will suffer from back pain at some stage in their life.
Are you one of the 8? Some questions to ask yourself...
Is it in the lower, upper or middle of the back?
Is your posture good?
Do you do repetitive work?
Do you exercise?
How is your diet?
Is there financial worries?
Is there family worries?
Are you feeling emotional stuck or on an emotional roller-coaster?
All these questions are relevant and some may be surprising but they can all help to figure out what may be causing your back pain and even perhaps how it can be eased.
Poor posture, Repetitive strain injuries, Osteoarthritis, Slipped Discs, and Weak core muscles are among the most common reasons for back pain. In truth the list is endless and everyone's pain is relevant to them. On an emotional level, the back is out of sight and so is the perfect hiding place for
emotions and issues that one doesn't want to deal with.
We all know the saying "I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders!".
This might be an emotional weight that has been placed on your shoulders and as a result can cause high stress and severe muscle tension. The Left shoulder in particular is related to "emotional stress", massage can help work this out and allows emotions to surface that you may not have even realised were there. This is also true for the neck or the inability to turn your neck perhaps what has happened in the past is too hard to look at and so the ability to turn your head has become restricted over time as the emotions become more locked in the neck.
The middle back allows us to bend and move in different directions. We have all heard of "Bending over Backwards to help someone". Do you find yourself constantly saying yes to those looking for help from you, maybe some resentment is building up inside you. This resentment and frustration can have a trapping affect in the mid back where the muscles can lock around the spine prevent movement in the mid section. Hard as it is at times, it is important to say "no" and looking after what feels right for you. Saying no is a skill in itself and can be learned it's us to get more comfortable with saying no!!
"Financial Strain is often linked to the lower back", this might surprise some but others may connect with this statement. The financial worries of being in debt or not having enough money to support yourself or your loved ones can sit in the lower back for years creating all sorts of lower back pain that can radiate up the back and down the legs. The lower back is what keeps you upright. if it is gets sore and you're finding it difficult to get comfortable standing or sitting, have a look inside yourself and what's going on around you and perhaps you feel you are letting someone down or trying to do too
much at the moment. It's good to ask for help and support from loved ones to give you the strength to stand upright and continue walking through tough times!!
As mentioned aside from emotions there are lots of physical reasons for having a "Bad Back".
Weak core muscles, bad posture, Osteoarthritis, are all real issues that need to be worked on in order to maintain good health in the back. There are many options out there such as: > Massage, Osteopathy, Chiropractors, Physiotherapy, Talk Therapy, Acupuncture. Find what works for you, and what works for one person may not work for another, trust your instinct on this.
by Sarah Forristal
Hormones are messengers that travel through our bloodstream to different organs and tissues. On a daily basis they control much of what we feel and they coordinate the body's metabolism, energy level, reproduction and growth, sleep and fluid balance. They change and fluctuate throughout our lives and play a major part in our sleep/wake cycle, monthly menstrual cycle and through the different life phases. They have an affect on brain neurotransmitters which influence mood and emotions. They influence blood sugar levels and our weight. They direct processes in our body so that things run smoothly and natural rhythms stay in sync. I have heard them being described as our 'inner compass' and I think that is a lovely description.
How do we feel if our hormones are out of balance?
We may have mood swings, have heavy or painful periods, irregular periods, fatigue, difficulty losing weight, anxiety, trouble sleeping, digestive issues, skin breakouts.
What Causes Hormone Imbalance?
Hormones are constantly interacting with our environment, both inner and outer. They respond to sunlight and darkness, how we sleep/relax, our stress levels, our gut bacteria, what we eat, how we exercise, and the life stage that we are in.
Therefore, when thinking about supporting our hormone health it is important to think of the wider picture.
Here are a few things to check in on:
What are my stress levels throughout the day?
Am I regularly getting good quality sleep?
Is my digestive system working well?
Am I supporting natural rhythms/cycles e.g sleep/wake cycle, menstrual cycle, seasonal cycles etc.
Do I experience low energy during the day?
How do I manage stress?
How can massage and reflexology help?
Both massage and reflexology calm and relax the body. They both have a significant influence on the nervous system, switching on the parasympathetic nervous system which supports relaxation, digestion, blood sugar balance, stress reduction, pain relief and repair. This in turn helps to support hormone balance.
Reflexology works on reflex points on the feet which correspond to different parts of the body. As a result the hormonal system can be supported and specific attention can be given where needed. People experience hormonal imbalance in different ways so each treatment is client specific. Some come to support fertility or to regulate their menstrual cycle, others for digestive support and stress relief.
If you would like to know more about massage or reflexology and how it may help you, please contact us on 087 9510554 or email email@example.com.
Once again I find myself witting about a subject that has come up and keeps coming up.
Headaches! The dreaded sensation of a headache coming on. Headaches can mean a number of things. You know how we say “tis the change in the weather” or “the weather is awful heavy”. This most defiantly can be a reason behind the heaviness in your head or around your eyes. The weather can most certainly change and effect your head. For some people weather change may cause a imbalance in the brains chemicals, including serotonin, which can prompt a migraine. Headaches and migraines can also be caused by the lack of water intake. First thing I do when I feel a headache is drink lots of water. Hydrate!
Here is a list of different types of headaches. Some are self explanatory. Some I will explain a little.
Before I get into the above we must understand the basics.
Primary headaches occur when the pain in your head is the condition. In other words, your headache isn't being triggered by something that your body is dealing with like a particular illness or allergies.
These headaches can be episode or chronic.
Episode headaches may occur every so often or even just once in a while. They can last anywhere from a half hour to several hours. That when we realize the water intake isn't making a difference and worst case scenario we need a pain killer.
Chronic headaches are more consistent. They occur most days out of the month and can last for days at a time. Yup, you heard me. Days! In these cases perhaps pain management plan is necessary from your local doctor.
Now we know the difference between Episode headaches and Chronic headaches lets get back to some of the ones I have listed above.
You may feel a dull, aching sensation all over your head. Tenderness around your neck, forehead, scalp or shoulder muscles also might occur. The headaches are mainly caused by stress. When I have clients suffering from these types of headaches. Working on a cranial head massage and a facial massage is great to incorporate in with their treatment. A technique I use is light pulling of the hair right by the scalp to allow movement and blood flow. This can really help relieve built up tension.
Cluster headaches are characterized by sever burning and piecing pain. They occur around or behind one eye. Or one side of the face at a time. Most common effects can be watering eye. Also with that can trigger nasal congestion. There headaches occur in a series. Each individual headache can last from fifteen minutes to three hours. As you can imagine this can be very draining emotionally and physically. Most people experience one to four headaches a day. This can happen around the same time everyday with cluster. After one headache resolves another will soon follow. Cluster headaches are more common in the spring and fall. They are also three times more common in men.
Migraine, Migraine pain is an intense pulsing from deep within your head. This pain can last days. This is a headache that can significantly effect your ability to carry out your daily chores. I find when I suffer from a migraine the only thing that helps me is to be in a dark room and taking a nap. Light and sound can really effect a migraine and some migraines can lead to vomiting or nausea. It also effects your eyesight for example, stars, flashing lights and blind spots. Migraine can run in the family or be associated with other nervous system conditions. Women and there rimes more likely to develop migraine that men. If you are suffering from these headaches that are debilitating more than three days a month then I recommend talking to a doctor.
Allergy or Sinus, as you know when the pollen count is high allergies can lead to sinus problems. Perhaps you have an allergy issue. Most commonly migraine headaches are misdiagnosed as sinus headaches. Up to 90 percent or “sinus headaches” are actually migraines.
The most common secondary headaches. These headaches is your body telling you something else is going on with your body. If you are constantly triggering this it can then lead to chronic headaches. Finding the primary cause is key to treating the headache. I would say nine out of ten times you know the cause of this. So before you pop a pain killer
Take some deep breaths and give yourself a moment to listen to your body.
Take these steps towards finding out what it is your body needs. You can cure your headache yourself without having to take a pain killer. Obviously if the pain is to much and you have tried these steps but yet the headache still persists, then take some pain relief. Overall so many things can cause a headache and hopefully now with this information you can take from it what you will and this will help you.
By; Ana Mepham
Recently I have found the word “Boundaries” has been coming up a lot in conversation. I feel this conversation can be endless as we are always learning new boundaries and forgetting old boundaries.
BOUNDARY; A line which makes the limits of an area; a dividing.
Boundaries can be described as how emotionally close you let people get to you. They are also where you draw the line within a relationship. They say how you are willing to give or take before requiring that things change or deciding to call it quits.
How do I identify personal boundaries?
Boundaries are very important. Weather it be with your family, your friends, in your relationship and most of all with yourself. Just because you have allowed someone to call over uninvited or taken the time out to help someone, whatever it is learn from it, change it if you feel its becoming the norm for them and discomforting to you. Change and it protect yourself.
Try to take in these steps, we as humans are forever learning, evolving and growing. Boundaries are a huge part of our lives. Remember always be true to yourself.